Thursday, May 14, 2009

put back together =)

hi baby=)

i have so many pictures and videos to show you, but i'll have to do that later. so i'll just tell you what you're up to right now. you had surgery last night. you were the fifth case with a chance that the third would last only 30 minutes but it lasted an hour and a half, and the fourth case was maybe going to be cancelled, but it wasn' finally at 8:00pm you head into the OR for your big (and hopefully last) surgery. all went well. they put your little intestines back together and you have no more j-tube and no more ileostomy. just one little incision line with a g-tube on the end. and he did an esophageal dilation to make sure your nissen wasn't too loose or too tight. it was just fine. so you were wonderful and stable during surgery and they called us a little after 10 to come down to the pacu and see you. you were sweet and peaceful. you have a funny reaction to anesthesia where you gag a lot, and that's obviously not a ton of fun when you just had surgery and your belly hurts. so slowly you've worked the anesthesia out of your system and now it's just normal (for you) post-op stuff like low-grade temperature, grumpy and needing your morphine here and there, and little dazed, elevated heart rate...nothing we can't handle. this afternoon you woke up a little more and you were fairly content. you gave me 3 almost smiles and you will grab your little pink minty flavored sponge on a stick and chew on it. when you were so sleepy you would grab your passy and put it up to your (closed) mouth and just push it against your lips but your eyes never open and you never quite got it into your mouth. very cute, but i also wanted to just fix it for you. so while you are precious and great, none of us like these few days post-op. you are not very happy and we just want you to be comfy and none of us can quite make everything better for you. but soon enough sweet baby=)

we have loved (really? loved? hard to believe but that is the word that's coming to mind) being at the hospital the last few weeks. you've been able to do lots of things. physical therapy and occupational therapy and speech therapy come in almost every day to work with you. we've always known that you'd have a hard time with certain gross motor milestones so they've taught us different specifics to help you sit up and put more weight through your arms and lean certain ways, etc...and you've gotten a tiny bit better at feeding by mouth. liking popsicles a little and swallowing water (no worries-we're not actually trying to "feed" you and get you nutrition this way...we're just teaching you what to do with food or liquid in your mouth) and banana flavored baby food and your dad has been heading up this conquest. he can't really just play with you regular-he has to be teaching you something. always squirting things in your mouth (strangely enough-you'll take liquid and baby food if it comes from a syringe but if it's on a spoon you're not as interested) or helping you sit up. i'm thankful for him because i'm not as good at pushing you and challenging you. i'm just your soft mama. we're a good balance, your mom and dad. nice how that works.

they also consulted with pulmonology and cardiology to continue weaning your vent. they quit giving you sildenafil because they said your pulmonary pressures on your last echo were low enough. they lowered your pressure support on the vent for a few days then turned you to cpap. you looked awesome for about 36 hours and then i'd notice an occasional spell where you'd work a little harder to breathe. finally one lasted a little longer so i asked if maybe we could give you a little more help, at least to get you through surgery. so we did. you don't have a set respiratory rate, but we gave you a pressure support is 5 (10 just for the few days post-op). we'll reconvene after you recover and get stronger again and figure out another weaning plan. no worries. well, actually, that's a lie. there is this part of me that goes straight to "oh no-what if this means she's never gonna be able to do it. what if her lungs are never ready. what if she needs a lung transplant. what if she's on a ventilator forever." sorry baby. that's just what i do. prove me wrong please ;)

mother's day was great=) low-key and wonderful. we played with you while you were awake and during your naps daddy and i took long walks (it was another katie day, therefore, happy mama) and ate meals outside and went shopping yet again at mommy's favorite store ann taylor loft and had great conversation (about internship sites and theology, of all things;)) and got ice cream. we were wishing we could've taken you with us so much. not too much longer.

we've also gotten to play with all our old friends and make some new ones. turns out 7 central is full of lots of quality people for us to get to know. miss lindsay and elizabeth and kam come to see you a lot. uncle josh and sweet betsy come to see you when they can. gigi came yesterday so she could be with you over the next few days when daddy and i are working. she puts her head close to yours and sings to you. you love it. my grandmother made me dolls when i was little and my first one was named sally. i carried her everywhere and she is ragged like you wouldn't believe. mom washed her and brought her to you, and you loved her so much when she gave her to you. and mommy's friends mary and sara and libby came last weekend to have our girls' night for my birthday-it was tons of fun. in a very unexpected way. ;) we met fun friends at our japanese steakhouse table who made our night. we also made a new ceramic friend named lola. i'll show you pictures. we were all very successful in catching in our mouth the food they throw at us. very classy. =)

i think God has been teaching me something specific lately. to hold you in a loose grasp. that you're not totally mine. that He's blessing us by placing you in our care while we're here on earth but that you are really His. typing that makes me stop for a second and feel mystical and smile. i love that you are His. that gives me the most comfort. but yes-i think He's teaching me to hold you close, but to make sure that grasp is not too tight. that the grasp is loose enough that you'll still recognize His sovereignty in your life. that He is the one sweetly and affirmingly guiding you in your decisions and that the best place for you is abiding in His unconventional safety that will challenge you out of your comfort zone every day. i pray that for you. i pray that He is revealing Himself to you every day and that you are falling in love with Him. that you will be His. that you will love Him with the way you live your life. that your face will be radiant from abiding in Him and His joy will fill those beautiful eyes of yours. (radiant is one of mommy's favorite words. you should know that i think)

ok babe. love you. pictures to come.



Deb said...

Hi Katie,

So happy to hear that the surgery is done and was a success! I thought about you guys as I was driving through Charlottsville with my daughter and her milllion boxes today on our way home from Tech. I'm having to learn the same "loosened grip" lessons as my kids grow into the people that God wants them to be. I want to keep them's a mom thing! Thanks for sharing that! Hope the times flies until you're back home with that sweet little girl!
Love and Prayers,

Kaye said...

Thanks for updating, I had been thinking of you all. So glad that the surgery was successful. It sounds like Catherine is doing beautifully. Having a child (of any age) is like having your heart outside your body and you have to just trust that God will take care of that child. It seems that Catherine is proving you wrong, I hope she continues to do so and is off the vent much sooner than you think. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

twinsplusone said...

great update!! your last paragraph has me thinking too! thanks for the inspiration to be a better Mommy!

Abby & Pete said...

wonderful writings to read. make that radiant. love you guys so.

Anonymous said...

You are almost home little one. I have not updated much, but I think about you guys every day. Glad surgey is over, Yay. Peace, love and happiness. Prayers and love as always.

Tim and Jennifer said...

katie, i am so glad everything went well. she is so strong, i am just amazed by her....she is going to run her own country one day!!! i love what you wrote about keeping them close, but with a loose grasp, that will be a challenge for me my whole life.

AtlantaMama said...

your heart and mind set are so sweet and so strong!

we'll continue to pray over the surgery recovery.

looking fwd to seeing more pictures too!!

We LOVE yall!

Erin said...

Love you, friend.

ShannaRenee said...

Wow! you are speaking volumes about having a "loose grip" with Catherine....I learn so much from you! I love when you say that your prayer for her is that she falls more in love with God everyday.....really, isn't that the most beautiful gift we can ask for for our children? You are such a good Mom Katie! Happy late mother's day and i'm so glad Catherine's surgery went well! Looking forward to seeing new pics and videos of that cute little girl!

Wilma said...

Wednesday night women's group asked about Catherine, and prayed for her healing. Just wanted you to know we all were thinking about you.